Posts Tagged 'family'

How often does “no” mean “the end” for you?

It is totally human to get discouraged when something doesn’t go the way you want it to. Say you come up with an idea for the perfect getaway for you and your husband, and though it makes you sigh and get that faraway, relaxed look in your eyes when you discuss it, your hubby just hears the pricetag and the hassle of getting the kids cared for in order for you to be gone. “No,” he says. “Nuh-uh. Not happ’nin’.”

What do you do?

Well, Alisa Bowman of www.projecthappilyeverafter.com wrote a smart post about this topic today. Whether you’re letting a “no” cause you to stop in your relationship, in your pursuit of your dreams, or in your business deals, you are certainly missing out on some possibilities that exist for you if you’re willing to see no as a “detour” rather than the end.

Here’s the link to her post: http://www.projecthappilyeverafter.com/2009/04/dont-take-no-for-an-answer/

What do you do when you hear “No!”? How do you keep from quitting, getting derailed, giving up or getting stuck?

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Up Next in the WoMEN teleseminar series: Alisa Bowman

This is gonna be so much fun.

As you know by now, I’ve put together a fabulous and FREE teleseminar series for working moms called: “WoMEN: What Mom Entrepreneurs Need.” Our next topic in the series is something every mompreneur I know needs–some advice, tips, and clever ways to get the support we need from our partner or spouse. Running a business and raising a family is not easy, and it’s near impossible if you’ve got a struggle with your partner going on.

I’ve found just the gal to help us figure out how to make this better.

On Tuesday, April 14th at Noon ET, I’m pleased to welcome Alisa Bowman from “Project Happily Ever After” as my guest expert for the teleseminar entitled: “How to Make Your Marriage Work With Your Business.” alisa_bowman

Her approach to marriage, parenthood, career and friendships has been described as “disarmingly honest.” Her fresh take on life includes mentioning what others deem unmentionable.  From bikini waxes to second honeymoons, the silent treatment to power struggles (both with 2 year olds and 42 year olds), she is able to masterfully blend the helpful with the hilarious. Alisa speaks at college events and conferences. She has appeared in Better Homes and Gardens, Women’s Health and American Baby. She has also been interviewed on large websites such as Glamour.com, various newspapers and a guest on regional radio and television news shows. Alisa has authored and co-authored or ghosted more than 20 books, including 5 New York Times Best sellers. Alisa currently lives happily ever after (most of the time) with her husband, daughter and dog in Emmaus, PA.

I hope you’ll join us for this fun, wise and honest look at how we mom entrepreneurs can get the support we need from our relationships. Here are the details:

What: “Make Your Marriage Work With Your Business” teleseminar, the second teleseminar in the “WoMEN: What Mom Entrepreneurs Need” series, hosted by Lara Galloway, The Mom Biz Coach with Guest Expert Alisa Bowman

When: Tuesday, April 14th, from Noon – 1pm ET

Where: On your computer or your phone via www.blogtalkradio.com/MomBizCoach (click on the link to listen via webcast) or call (347) 838-9199 to listen and ask questions during the live show!

Tell your girlfriends to join you! I promise you’ll find some great nuggets of wisdom, some funny things to laugh about, and a few actions you can take immediately to improve your relationship.

Do you have a question or topic you’d like to hear addressed during the teleseminar by Lara or Alisa? Just leave a comment below.

Ten Ways a Life Coach Can Help Mompreneurs

On today’s Mom Biz Coach Audio Blog, I’m going to answer some questions that I’ve been asked several times by working moms or mothers who are thinking of starting a business. I know how overwhelming it can be to be a fulltime mom and a fulltime entrepreneur.

Most of the mom entrepreneurs I’ve coached spent a lot of time thinking about hiring me before actually doing so. They weren’t exactly sure what life coaching is all about, or what we actually do in a coaching relationship. Some of my clients admitted to feeling embarrassed about hiring a coach to support them, almost like it meant they were a failure at being able to do what they wanted to do in life.

On my radio show today I’m going to tell you exactly what hiring a life coach can do to support your business. If you want to be successful on your own terms, create a business that works even when you don’t, get the buy-in and support you need from your spouse and your family, figure out how to get more clients and make more money without working around the clock, and understand how to spend quality time with your kids (especially while they’re young!), tune in to today’s show. I’ll be addressing these issues and more.

Details for the show: Go to www.blogtalkradio.com/mombizcoach. The Mom Biz Coach Audio Blog airs at 11:30 am ET for 15 minutes. If you can’t make it live, you can listen to the show at your convenience since it will be immediately archived in the “On-Demand” episodes listed on my show page at the above link.

Do you have questions about how a life coach could support you? Are you wondering what a coach actually does? I’d be happy to answer your questions if you leave a comment below.

The real power of gratitude

Still wondering about Social Media and how it works?

The non-profit organization, tweetsgiving.org, has just raised over $10,000 in less than 48 hours, all thanks to twitter. “tweetsgiving” is a project that seeks to demonstrate the power of twitter and the social web by spreading gratitude and raising $10,000 for a classroom in Tanzania. Those who chose to participate on twitter were able to donate money online during this twitter fundraiser.

I’m inspired by the generosity of people and their willingness to give to a cause during tough economic and personal times.

And, like so many others today, I’m thinking about all I’m grateful for.

I’m sitting here in Canada really missing my family back in Georgia. Nobody in Canada is celebrating Thanksgiving today–Canuks have this holiday on October 13th. Instead, my children are at school, my husband is at work, and I’m by myself at home, tying up some loose ends in the home office before jumping headlong into some baking for our own feast. We’ll have some friends from Michigan here for the weekend, and we’ll carve the turkey tomorrow evening. We’ll be a day late in this country.

I imagine my family down South. They’re all gathering at my sister’s house now. There’s probably 40 or more of them (we have a large family), and I’m sure I’m missing out on some wonderful things today. I’ll miss my Mom, Dad and siblings the most. Dad got up early this morning, started the coffee he normally relies on to give him a kickstart, but that he won’t need today. He’s happy and excited to get out of bed and get into the kitchen to bake his famous whole wheat bread, a treat we get only at Thanksgiving and sometimes Christmas. He’ll be singing as he always does, and making silly jokes that keep us either giggling or groaning. Mom will start buzzing around the house, finishing up the traditional dishes she loves to make, gathering the various serving dishes and such that she’ll need to take over to my sister’s. She’s busy, she’s multitasking, and she’s forgetting something in the oven. That’s all normal. And she is soooo happy–having her family gathered around her is one of the best gifts she ever has. My brothers and sisters are connecting with old friends back home they haven’t spoken to in a while, visiting with family, and stealing bits of ham, turkey and whatever else is left unguarded on the countertops. The phone is ringing off the hook, but chances are it will go unanswered because the noise and chaos of cooking, music, adults talking and the clamour of young kids in the house will drown it out.

In addition to so much else I’m thankful for, I am especially thankful for my family. I am the child who has travelled and lived farthest from home on multiple occasions. While I realize what living so far away has cost me, it has certainly helped me realize how much I love them. I am grateful to have a family so worthy of being missed. And I am grateful that they love me as much as they do.

Do you consider Palin to be a role model for women?

In the same vein as Hilary Clinton, a woman near the top of our political structure causes quite a stir (gross understatement). There are those who will laud her efforts to stand for what she believes in, to go after her dreams, to make a difference in the world, all the while raising a (very large) family. Others will see her political ambitions as running counter to the most important job of motherhood, and question a woman’s ability to take on such a significant role when her family clearly needs her to remain at the helm.

Given the role of primary care-taker, can/should a woman effectively lead in business and politics? I am less interested in the political debate such a question can arouse (which I admit, is pretty much unavoidable), but rather how her role is causing us to consider various conventions.

Can’t wait to hear your thoughts!

What I learned on vacation

Well, I’m still adjusting to the time difference between Colorado and Windsor, Canada. Amazing the difference two hours can make. My family and I spent eight days in and around Copper Mountain last week with my husband’s family. Honestly, the sooner we can move to Colorado and live the rest of our days there, the better. I’ve found my nirvana.

Even while on vacation, I pay attention to what there is for me to learn. Maybe I should say “especially” while I’m on vacation, since getting out of my regular routine provides me lots more opportunities to see and hear things I wouldn’t otherwise. I learned, for instance, that my almost six-year-old son is a master at driving a bumper boat and squirting its water gun at anyone on the lake he could reach. Since he had never “driven” anything before, I was amazed at how quickly he learned to maneuver the boat and to control its direction.  I learned how quickly he could develop new skills, and I learned how to get out of his way.

From my four-year-old son, I learned a lot about jumping and flipping. Tethered by a harness attached to bungee cords, he flew into the air as he bounced on a trampoline and did forward and backward flips with ease and grace. I learned that some things aren’t as easy to do as they might seem, and that some things little kids learn more easily than grown-ups do.

From my baby, not yet two years old, I learned how hearts can completely melt and total focus be attained by gazing up into someone’s eyes and flashing them a slow, steady smile. I learned again how feelings, immediately expressed, get understood perfectly, and that holding them inside doesn’t really benefit anybody.

From my husband, I learned that love doesn’t depend on behavior, or moods, or circumstances, but on being there for one another and for trusting in our commitments.

I taught myself something, too. Five hours alone in a house by myself once every six years is an amazing gift, but one I need more often. The day before we made our return trip home, I spent time by myself in our rented cabin reading a women’s magazine cover to cover (including all the recipes and letters to the editor in their entirety), drinking a glass of wine, watching the sun shine all over the mountains and trees, hearing the birds sing and the chipmunks chirp, feeling the chilly breeze on my skin and the soft fabric of the over-sized couch on my legs and feet. I tuned into KLCC radio from Eugene, Oregon and enjoyed immensely a four-hour blues program they were playing. I spoke to no one. I went no where. I ate and drank as my body dictated and rested my body and spirit the rest of the time. I haven’t had that much time to myself in six years. Even when I’ve not had the responsibility of taking care of my children, even when I’ve been on vacation with family and friends other times, I haven’t kept my own company and enjoyed it so thoroughly.

I’m lucky to have such great teachers all around me.

Delicate balance: mothers in business

As a mother of three children under six years old who owns her own company, I spend a lot of time doing one thing while thinking I “should” be doing another. Sometimes I’m building Legos with the kids and I’ll remember I’m on deadline for something I’m writing. Other times I’m sitting at the computer responding to a client or doing research on my target audience, only to have a nagging feeling that I should be back downstairs drawing silly sketches or playing hide and seek with the kids.And I know I’m not alone. Mothers in business, “mompreneurs”, have particular challenges when it comes to the issue of balancing business and babies. Without question, priority #1 is my family. I chose to be a mother a while back and have no doubt that this is exactly who I am supposed to be. But my journey to become a mother who also has a fulfilling career has been a not-so-graceful dance between passion, commitment, ambition, guilt, joy and inspiration. Can we truly have it all?

I’m collecting thoughts, witticisms, rants and such from women who are the primary caretakers of their family and who own their own businesses or who want to return to work but feel conflicted about it. If this describes you, please post your comments here.

Some questions to ponder:

  1. Why do you (want to) work?
  2. What are your biggest challenges as a mother/business owner?
  3. Does your husband/significant other support your choice to pursue a career?
  4. Does your work satisfy you? If so, why?
  5. What do you have to sacrifice to be a “mompreneur”?
  6. What is the most gratifying part of your work?
  7. What inspires you?
  8. What do you hope to teach your children by being a mother/business owner?
  9. What does “success” mean to you?

Thanks for sharing your thoughts!


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